As Christian believers living in this wonderful and sometimes fallen world, it is tempting to blend in worldly ways and be influenced by the belief of other people, especially how they view relationships. We oftentimes hear this line: “God will use me to change this person.”
This is frequently the belief of those Christians who became totally blinded by their feelings and emotions, not thinking that God disapproves and He is against this. They continue to romanticize how life would be better if “that person is in their life.” If we let our feelings lead us and not the Spirit of God, it is possible to be led astray and it can be used by the devil as an entry point to cause destruction.
To avoid this from happening, let us listen and obey the instruction of the Lord in 2 Corinthians 6:14: “Do not be unequally yoked with the unbeliever.” Also, let us listen to pastor Vlad’s advice:” It’s better to wait for God to bring the ‘Right Person’ than to wait for God to change the wrong person.” It may be exhausting to wait, but it’s more challenging and exhausting to change a deeply rooted character and attitude. Whether you like it or not, only a true encounter with the Lord and a touch from Him could bring change.
Do Not be influenced and do not conform. Just because you think it’s normal, because you feel incomplete, because life makes sense with Him/Her, because He or She is making you feel loved, and because you feel this inside of you: “He/She is the One!”
Most importantly, just because you think that He or She is the right person that God has prepared for you, when in reality, it’s NOT; especially if that person does not have a true and personal relationship with the Lord and if both of you are not emotionally, mentally, and spiritually prepared enough to handle a relationship. Consider these things and assess how it would personally affect your relationship with Jesus Christ. Be Wise and Think Twice!
It is also important to understand that before God introduces you to someone else, He first wants to remove something within you. In Genesis 2:21-22. “So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.” And in 22, “Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” God removed one of Adam’s ribs and brought Eve to Adam from the rib He had to take out.
There are certain areas of our lives that need to be addressed and supported. God wants us to be healed or fixed before getting into the relationship. It is very important to take this step and recognize these areas in our lives. This will help us so we can be a blessing into the relationship we are waiting for.
It is a very common culture in Christian life that we believe that we are good enough, and thus God only works for the person He is bringing to us. We forget to acknowledge that we also need God to work in our lives. God doesn’t only work on the person He bringing rather, God wants to work on you too.